Can you think of the time when your best efforts were not appreciated by those around you? Or the time when people told you that you were wrong and stupid even though you weren’t?
More importantly, don’t you feel that if even one person had come during those moments of dejection and told you to bravely carry on, it would have prevented hours of doubt and self-pity?
As human beings, we all seek to be recognized for our efforts and sometimes need validation from others. Though it is natural to do so, you have to be careful not to let external circumstances rob you of your self-confidence and self-respect.
I have seen a lot of people begin to doubt themselves when they don’t get the kind of rewards or recognition from the world outside. They start taking others too seriously and slowly their self-esteem begins to take a hit. They begin to lower their standards and compromise on their originality just to seek approval from the people around them.
Great men such as Emerson and Napoleon Hill have articulated their own versions of how to overcome adversity and have a high self-esteem. (You can find them here)
The way I deal with such situations is to have some rules which I follow during such adverse times. These rules enable me to stop letting other people control my feelings and thoughts and empower me to get back into the driver’s seat. I had not articulated these in a systematic manner before but I felt I should share it with you.
Here are my rules of Self-Esteem captured in this infographic (Click to enlarge)
You can have your own rules of self-esteem which get you back on track and encourage you to believe in yourself. So what are the things you draw inspiration from when you’re down and out?
Do share them with me!